How Chess Builds Confidence in Children

Rebecca's story reminds us that confidence grows one move at a time.

She Didn't Want to Play
Rebecca was five years old and she did not want to participate. We were playing Chess Jeopardy — a game I use in lessons, something like a spelling bee but with chess questions — and she sat at the edge of the group with her arms folded, watching everyone else.
She wasn't being difficult. She was scared. Scared of getting something wrong. Scared of looking like she didn't know. That fear was sitting on her like a weight.
So we didn't push her into the game. Instead, I started asking her questions quietly, just the two of us. And I noticed something: she knew more than she thought she did. Much more. So I showed her that. Question by question, I showed her the map of everything she already understood.
Within six months, Rebecca was challenging every adult who walked into the room.

Within six months, Rebecca was challenging every adult who walked into the room.

That is what chess does. Not the trophies. Not the ratings. That moment — when a child stops waiting for permission to be capable — that's what this is all about.
 

Real Confidence Comes From Real Challenge. 

 There's a kind of confidence that breaks at the first obstacle because it was never built on anything real.
 Chess builds a different kind.
 The kind that  comes from sitting with a hard problem and not giving up.
From losing and coming back.
 From the moment you finally understand something that confused you for weeks.
The Gift of the Honest Mistake In chess, a blunder isn't a failure. It's data.
After every game, I sit with my students and we ask the same questions: What did I see? What did I miss?
 What would I do differently?
 

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About Mr.C

Ernest Colding is a National Master and founder of Chess for Children. For more than 30 years he has helped children develop critical thinking, confidence, and life skills through chess.
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